your beliefs

Your Beliefs

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The Big Question:
What do you believe to be true about yourself, others, and the world?

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What the answer reveals:
How you will behave toward yourself, others, and the world.

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Why is it important?
Because your beliefs shape your attitudes and behaviors, which will drive your actions.

Beliefs – Where Is Your Truth?

Unlike the values you worked on in the previous step, which define your barometer for right and wrong, your beliefs are the things you hold as true, regardless of whether you have proof that supports them or not. Depending on your personality, character, upbringing, and many other factors, you may be more or less prone to having beliefs not supported by undeniable proof.

For example, some people believe that God created the world, while others do not. Some people believe that the Earth is flat, and others believe that aliens exist on other planets. As to God, we do not have proof, so the belief is rooted solely in faith. We have scientific ideas for the concept of alien life that postulate that there should be life on other planets, but we don’t yet have any empirical way to prove it. Lastly, we have reliable and undeniable proof that Earth is not flat.

Now, your belief in any of these derives from your personality and character. Know that none of these beliefs has been ingrained into your DNA since birth. Your personality has been shaped as you grew up, and, of course, there are some characteristics particular to you that are derived from your ancestors’ genetic material.

But, by and large, beliefs are learned, observed, and practiced throughout life. Our belief system offers our minds a way to cope with our environment. Often, we need these beliefs as an anchor to our world. But, and herein lies the problem, many a time, our beliefs either push us to do reckless things or prevent us from taking risks of any kind.

Beliefs drive us to choose which country to move to, which city to buy our house in, and which community we want to mingle with. Beliefs influence our friendships, the way we vote, what we say, and what we do. Because they are so prevalent in our lives, it’s imperative that you understand them.

“The most decisive event in your life is when you discover you are not your thoughts or emotions. Instead, you can be present as the awareness behind the thoughts and emotions.”Eckhart Tolle

Types of Beliefs

There are three dominant kinds of beliefs that we all as humans develop throughout our lives:

  1. Beliefs about ourselves.
  2. Beliefs about others.
  3. Beliefs about the world as a whole.

As we will see, each one of these has a straightforward, direct influence on our attitudes and behaviors. Understanding these beliefs and combining them with the values we looked at in the previous step will provide a solid base for understanding your character and personality. That will provide clarity on several things you’ve done in the past and shine a light on how other people or events in your life have affected you, both mentally and emotionally.

1 Beliefs about yourself

The beliefs about ourselves tend to define our internal image about our own body, mind, emotional availability, capabilities, strengths, and so on. The problem is that we do not root them in solid, undeniable proof most of the time. Sometimes, they’re not facts at all—they are merely thoughts. These thoughts linger inside your brain and either push you to do something or hold you back. Here are some examples:

  • “I am unlucky” / “I am lucky”
  • “I am ugly” / “I am beautiful”
  • “I am not worthy” / “I am worthy”
  • “I don’t deserve this” / “I deserve this”
  • “I’m not smart enough” / “I am smart”
  • “I am not built for that” / “I am perfect for that”
  • “I never had a chance” / “I had all the chances”
  • “I never get any opportunities” / “There are endless possibilities”
  • “I just don’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur” / “I was born an entrepreneur”
  • “I don’t write very well” / “My writing is great”

beliefs thoughts ideas Now, is it possible that some of these are true? Yes, for sure. Think about the last one. Writing is a skill that you can develop. But if you keep running the “I don’t write very well” thought in your head and let it morph into “I am just not a writer,” you have transformed a simple observation of a fact that you could correct through learning and practice into a damning limiting belief.

Note the major difference between the beliefs on the left with a negative connotation (limiting beliefs) and those on the right with a positive connotation (empowering beliefs). Sadly, the limiting beliefs are much more likely to develop in our brains than the positive ones. That’s because a negative belief about yourself turns into an excuse against action, which keeps us in our comfort zone.

An empowering belief such as “My writing is great” now leaves you with no excuses not to write. If your writing is great, write! But wait a minute; maybe I don’t write very well. Okay, then I should watch TV instead.

You see, limiting beliefs are beliefs about ourselves that often morph into labels. “I can’t get to finish my tasks” becomes “I am a procrastinator.” “I don’t have a sense of fashion” becomes “I dress crappy.” Soon enough, you begin to identify yourself with those labels. You become the label.

The more you keep whispering these thoughts to your subconscious, the more it will listen. Do this for long enough, and you will internalize these thoughts and allow them to slowly poison your subconscious. And then, when situations occur that seem to validate them, your subconscious will serve them to you in the form of excuses.

“I am ugly” -> I go to a club, and nobody wants to dance with me -> “You see, I knew I was ugly. Nobody wants me.”

“I can’t write well” -> I sent a manuscript out and got a terrible review -> “You see, I’m not a writer. I knew it.”

And so on. These limiting beliefs do nothing but create artificial walls in the path of your success. They hold you back from experiences. Remember: you are not your thoughts—never have been and never will be.

“To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”Mahatma Gandhi

2 Beliefs about others

beliefs thoughts ideas 02 We usually acquire our beliefs about others throughout our life through learning and observation. The environments in which we grow up and the people we respect and look up to influence our opinions about other people. Over time, through personal experiences, you get to define your own beliefs or enforce the ones you already have.

For instance, if you get treated terribly in a hospital, you might develop a general idea that all doctors are bad. If it happens twice in your lifetime, it will become an undeniable belief. That’s an extreme case but think about concepts such as politics and religion or race and gender equality. People have many theories about others stemming from those concepts, and I don’t have to tell you the level of discord that this has created throughout our history.

Understanding where you stand in relation to other people can shift your mind into a place of tolerance that allows you to develop and function inside a society. It’s critical to see where you stand on the scale from cynical to trustful because if your goals and aspirations depend on your relationships with people, not knowing that will set you up for failure.

3 Beliefs about the world as a whole

beliefs thoughts ideas 03 Last but not least, you also have a specific set of beliefs about the world. You might hear people saying, “Life is shit,” or “Everything is terrible,” or “Life is full of possibilities.” How you view the world as a whole and the smaller world in which you live (your close community) will also define what you might or might not do.

By practicing looking at the world as a place full of possibilities, you will begin to free your mind from the prison of your negative views and start to be a promoter of the improvement of that world.

Much like the beliefs about yourself, if you focus your mind on negative beliefs about the world, soon you will only see proof for those. We call this confirmation bias. The more you think that the world is shit, the more you will see all the shit. Little by little, you’ll become blind to the beauty of our world. Soon, you will only look for shit, and guess what? Shit will come to you. Shifting these beliefs takes practice and time, but the entire world will unfold differently for you once you do it.

“A thing is not necessarily true because a man dies for it.”Oscar Wilde

Identifying Your Beliefs

The Belief System worksheet is divided into three boxes: (MYSELF, OTHERS, WORLD). Complete the answers in each of the boxes; feel free to give more than one and elaborate. Use additional pages as needed.

Once you have the list completed, circle the items which you think represent limiting beliefs. At this point, you must open your mind and be introspective. You need self-awareness, and if you believe you are not there yet, you might share this with your most trusted friend or mentor and ask for guidance. Sometimes your thoughts don’t appear as limiting beliefs because to see them as such, you must have the self-awareness to distinguish the difference.

You may need to take a few days and sleep on it. But once you have identified a handful of limiting beliefs, use the next page for diving into them. You will have to write how this limiting belief has affected your life so far, and also a quick way in which you could re-frame it in your mind so that it stops having those effects on you.

Once you are done with this third step of your voyage, head on to the next stop, Discover Your Strengths.

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